Frustrated With My Natural Hair!!!

Dear Natural Hair:
All the knots, fragile ends and dried out coils are overwhelming me.  All those hours spent detangling; you make me not want to wash you but of course I have to. 
I’ll admit times were good when we got into a rhythm and I actually liked the results of my Wash-n-Go. I literally washed my hair in the morning, shaped it with a headband and was on my way to work with tightly coiled, non-stretched hair.   
…But one week I just didn’t have the time and when I finally got around to you; you went ballistic.  I’ve never seen so much shed hair and I’m pretty sure that’s the most I’ve ever cut off of you.  Honest to God; I really lost my patience and was glad to cut you. Why are you so difficult?  Can’t we all just get along?

 (I get away with a true Wash-n-Go by pulling my ‘fro all the way back; but do it often or the detangle will be a nightmare…I look mad because this was after I cut out a lot of tangled hair)

I really want to straighten you out.   But I’m afraid of heat damage from my blow dryer and unfortunately, perm makes my eczema flair up resulting in dry scalp flakes.
I assumed if I let you be natural I would be able to take care of you with little maintenance.  I’d get to know you and learn exactly what you needed to be healthy but it’s been a year and I’m still confused as to how to get the results I want that won’t take hours to achieve.    I’m seriously thinking about letting you dread up but I guess I better research the care for dreadlocks as I don’t want to make any more assumptions as to what is best for you. 
Honestly, I’m most happy with you in braided extensions; but the added tension on the hair may make you fall out and I don’t want to screw you up forever.  It’s just; I can’t be tied up with you all day every single week.  I’m very active and I’ve got things I need to do with my weekends!  Forget about after work, I just don’t have the energy.

But I’m sure we can find that rhythm again if I keep up with the washes and detangling on a regular basis and when a special event comes up; I know I have to make the time to twist you out.  So, I guess we’ll try it again.  It’s just…you don’t know how close I came to saying goodbye to you.  But I do see potential in you and that’s why I’m sticking with you…for now.



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  1. The mistake is thinking natural hair needs little to no maintenance. What?! Of course it does. Youtube has endless tutorials for natural hair care and styling. It takes time and patience, but once you figure out your curl texture and the products that agree with your hair, it will all come together. Natural hair ROCKS!

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  2. I could only tolerate wash n go styles in the summer. In the winter I did 2 strand twist. Much lower maintenance and if I did it right I got a nice twist out for a few days. I wore 2 strands so long people thought I was loc’d before I ever loc’d my hair.

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  3. I have none of these problems. lol I just wash and condition my hair. braid it up put on a wig. fu*ck all that

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  4. We’ve all been there. I can’t do too much with wash’n go now, since my hair got a bit longer. I’m all braid outs or rollers these days.

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